Sniffle! (a long one)

As everyone who reads this should already know I have discovered that I am eight weeks pregnant. My due date is the week before my wedding. Not everyone was supposed to find out until I knew for sure I would carry but the cat is long out of the bag.

As most of my friends also know I have been beyond upset the last few days because within the week that I found out Tony and I were finally having a baby I got more crap from those who love me than I ever have in my life. I have not yet even gotten the chance to be happy about the baby.
Some people voiced their opinions on my Halloween wedding, some people voiced their opinion about my baby out of wedlock, others told me that I need to bump up or push back my date, most treated me like a child who is completely incapable of making a decision on her own. Not a single one asked me how Tony felt in all this. Thanks everyone I really needed that the first week I found out that I was having a baby and that I was possibly going to miscarry again. If I was 16 and only knew Tony for a month I could understand the crap I have been getting but I'm 22 and we have been together for what will be 5 years by the time we get married.
To everyone who kept their moth shut for a little longer thanks for at least waiting until I stopped bleeding and had a chance to calm down to talk to me about things. Which I should add was Monday. I bled for over a week.
What no one gave me was the chance to explain that I had already checked into things I already checked into the availability of the chapel, and most everyone else. The facility was booked every Friday, Saturday and Sunday in November except for Friday the week of and before Thanksgiving. None of the vendors will work the day after Thanksgiving and honestly who wants to come to a wedding then? I cant even take off work that day! Two of them were busy the week before. Also eveyone kept telling me about the stress the wedding was going to put on me and that I did not know what I was getting into. No one stopped to hear me about already having everything booked and taken care of. No one took into consideration that I plan weddings, this was not exactly my first one. Oh and lets not forget how fat I will be by then.
Yesterday after consulting with my obgyn I was told that based on my sonogram they expect me to be at least a week early however if I am late they will HAVE to make me have the baby by Halloween, no later because it would be unhealthy for me.
The facility also let me know that the first two Sundays in November opened up. The 2nd and the 9th. Now I am just waiting to hear back from the vendors.

Our choice for the day is the 9th as long as all the vendors are good with it also. We still plan to have a Halloween wedding which I am sure will make so many in my family happy however, we have already spent soooooooo much on the decorations and all that it will be dumb to change it.
On that note I don't understand why Halloween is such a horrifying date to get married on or why a Halloween theme is so bad. It is actually a date and theme that is perfectly common. I never said that we would be hanging from hooks in our backs while reading our vows or that everyone should come in a Halloween costume. We love Halloween. We also love the fact that the first time we met was close to Halloween and that when we started dating was close to Halloween a year later. We like that my birthday and our anniversary of November 2nd was just before and after Halloween. We like that Halloween is the day of rebirth and new beginnings and thought that would be a perfect way to start our lives. We also liked that Halloween is a day to honor those who are no longer with us because in the last few years Tony and I have lost several people who we loved dearly. Whatever childish morbid things people think of us because of it is simply based off a fantasy.
Tony and I are not children. We know how to think for ourselves and we know what works for us.

About the baby. There is still a chance that I will miscarry although the doctor said that he thinks it will be ok. Tony is hoping for a boy as most do. I am simply hoping for healthy and a girl would not be bad either.

If I have offended anyone I am sorry but trust me it does not equal up to the grief Tony and I have felt in this last week. To everyone who supported me and kept my head up, Thanks I really needed it. Even those faceless people who tried to chear me up while I was an uncontrollable mess at work. I am deeply embarassed but was completely out of control. To everyone who gave me crap I know you love me I love you too, I just wish you would stop looking at me as a child.

Kisses! Wish us luck!